Let’s start with a small lesson learned today: grudges.
I’ve had some throughout my life. Not many, but some. I try to be self-aware enough to understand how I fall short ALL the time, so that helps me be more empathetic to others. Usually.
But sometimes a person (or group of people) enter your life that rub you the wrong way.
Hey, it happens. I’m human.
What if you don’t know how to let go of grudges?
Today, I was in a situation where I had to decide if I would be willing to put away my prejudices for the good of some other folks. In these moments, I mostly just try to put on a smile until I start feeling more openminded and calm.
So that’s what I did.
I’m not saying it’s easy. But here are some tidbits I think helped me here, and other times when I didn’t get along with someone:
- You have NO IDEA what that person’s life is like in that moment (or in general)
- You have made just as many mistakes as they have (or maybe more in my case)
- There’s room for all types of personalities in this world and everyone can win (a.k.a. Life isn’t really a competition)
- You have NOTHING to gain by being right and EVERYTHING to gain by making it right
- Don’t be a jerk or else everyone will hold grudges against YOU
It’s all easier said than done, but the thing that I always draw on personally is this: empathy. If I consider the other side of the coin, I realize very quickly that I am in no position to judge.
That said, tomorrow’s a new day. I’m sure I’ll still struggle at times with this. In fact, I know I will.
If I can just be 1% better at it next time, then I’ll be perfect in 99 more tries.